I find it amazing, now that we learn more naturally, how much I see I can trust my kids.
When they are free to think more for themselves, they more instinctively know what to do.
We visited one of our Temples not long ago. Just a little visit, to walk around the grounds. To us, these are very holy places.
We parked across the street, and as we crossed the street, I watched my girls to see how they would act. I prepared myself to shush them and remind them to be respectful and reverent.
I currently have a child in the throes of the Terrible Twos. I was most apprehensive about her. But as we approached the gates, without my having to say a word, each girl automatically quieted her steps. My two-year-old put her finger to her lips and began to quietly shush her sisters. She went from being a banshee to an angel, just by crossing the street.
She instinctively knew what to do, and how to act. They all did. No pushing from me was needed, when I showed them the trust they were due. (I’m not saying that children never need instructing or reminding about behavior, but truly, this was a remarkable instance.)
At one point, as they stepped close to the building, they each took off their shoes. Their voices quieted to barely audible whispers. Again, no prompting from me. I sat and listened to them. They all just felt that it was the right thing to do.
Trust your children. Give them credit. They are remarkable beings when allowed to think for themselves.