Tag archives for behavior

  1. Learning from refugees


      As the refugee issue has heated to a boil in our country, my girls have formed their own opinions on the matter.  They decided to do something to make refugees in our country feel more welcome.  They, practically on their own, organized a holiday drive for the refugee center closest to us.  After about…

  2. Labeling kids: let them choose their own

    This right here is one of the things I love most about unschooling. Strengths are the focus and drive of our lives, not our weaknesses or struggles. Every weakness is a strength in disguise, and I believe that unschooling gives my children the chance to figure that out.

  3. It’s not our job to toughen our children up to face a cruel and heartless world. It’s our job to raise children who will make the world a little less cruel and heartless.

    L.R. Knost

  4. Finding their own way


    A little over a year ago, my daughters attended Yoga for Congo for the first time.  They had helped me prepare for the event many times, and we had discussed the subject matter and the seriousness of the issue. Nothing could have prepared me, though, for what it was like to have them in that…

  5. How is your heart today?


    Have you read this yet? This brilliant article discusses the “disease of being busy,” our culture’s obsession with activity and with accomplishing tasks on our to-do lists.  When our own family found ourselves caught in the throes of being busy, we were incredibly unhappy.  We were stressed and tense.  Even after we started unschooling, it…

  6. Nurturing constructive boredom: take away the TV for a while


    “Any parent who has punished a child by taking away TV privileges and then watched that child play–slowly at first, then imaginatively, freely–will recognize the connection between time, boredom, and creativity.  ‘There’s something about television–maybe that it provides so much in the way of audio and visual stimulations that children don’t have to generate very…

  7. Directed-attention fatigue

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    “Too much directed attention leads to…”directed-attention fatigue,” marked by impulsive behavior, agitation, and inability to concentrate.  Directed-attention fatigue occurs because neural inhibitory mechanisms become fatigued by blocking competing stimuli.  As Stephen Kaplan explained in the journal Monitor on Psychology, ‘If you can find an environment where the attention is automatic, you allow directed attention to…

  8. Little boxes no more

    I’ve been absent from this space for a while, mostly because there have been some amazing changes in our family over the past month: we’ve moved out of the suburbs and into the mountains.  It’s late and I’m tired, and I can’t wait to go into it all very soon, but I just want to…

  9. Trusting your kids


    I find it amazing, now that we learn more naturally, how much I see I can trust my kids. When they are free to think more for themselves, they more instinctively know what to do. We visited one of our Temples not long ago.  Just a little visit, to walk around the grounds.  To us,…